by Tania Basheer, Publisher

10 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship!

Vol . 2, Issue 2
27 Feb 2006
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  Welcome Quote of the Month
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'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'

- Maya Angelou

  Hi! From Tania

Hi Reader,

Do you believe in the stars? Mine said that this month I should expect many challenges, delays and changes in plans. Not something a Leo likes to hear!

A few weeks ago, I took my printer in for repairs and, after paying the bill, I tripped as I was leaving the repair shop and although I didn't fall, my poor printer had crash landing. Then, a few days later, I was at the petrol station filling up the tank when I glanced down and noticed that the diamond in my engagement ring was gone!

And, a little while ago, I had a major craving for a chocolate muffin, so, as I work from home, I decided to whip up a batch and pop them in the oven for a quick snack. Then I totally forgot about them. They were charcoal, stone hard when I remembered. So much for surprising Rick by sneaking a few into his luggage for his Sydney trip as I'd planned!

I'm glad I'm a bit superstitious and believe that good and bad things come in threes. 

Warm wishes,


Tania Basheer - Publisher
Living the dream e-zine

  Feature: 10 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship!

Could your relationship be a little more romantic, adventurous, spontaneous, harmonious or more fun?

Is your relationship as good as it can get, or has it lost a bit of its sparkle and could do with a boost?

If so, here are 10 suggestions to help spice it up!

  • Know each others deepest desires and keep them alive and growing: Everything we do comes from a desire and everything we think and do moves us closer to or further away from our desires and each other. Learn what it is that each of you desires the most. If you don't know, talk to your partner and share your deepest desires with them. Talking is not just about communicating, it's about connection. Then, create clear intentions and stay focused on your desires - be it romance, fun, adventure, happiness, harmony, deep connection.   
  • Make a commitment to your relationship: What are you committed to? What is currently happening in your relationship reveals what your spoken and unspoken commitments are to. What are you spending your time doing? Consciously carve out time exclusively for your relationship and to committing to one another and making passion and love a priority.
  • Create new beliefs about how you can be together: Our beliefs about what is possible impact on our actions and the results we get from our actions. If you're not experiencing what you want in your relationship, it could be that you're being blocked by holding on to unhelpful beliefs about what's possible. If so, create new beliefs about how you and your partner can be together that are aligned with your desires.
  • Allow your partner to be different and learn from them: What's different between us and our partners can often be where the spark is. To keep that spark alive, we need to accept, appreciate and honour our partners' differences.    
  • Look for opportunities to pamper and spoil your partner: Pampering can be as simple as letting your partner sleep in late, while you make breakfast and take care of the kids, or allowing them to relax while you wash the dishes after dinner. Or, it can be bringing home a little surprise gift that you know they'll love, like icecream or a favourite CD or magazine.  
  • Remind yourself what it was that attracted you and what you loved about your partner when you met: You should find (give or take a few kilos) that those things are still there; they just need to be re-discovered and celebrated.    
  • Touch your partner in loving ways: When we touch, we connect at that moment. Give your partner gentle touches, hugs and kisses so they can feel your love and connection. Or touch their heart, by giving them a hand-written love letter.
  • Make time for intimacy: Even when you and your partner are both running on busy schedules, be sure to take time to be intimate. If we do not prioritise our basic human need for intimacy, we risk feelings of being unloved and unappreciated creeping in. As you set intimacy as a priority in your relationship, you'll soon find other things in your life will start to fall into place as your relationship is strengthened.  
  • Spend regular time alone together: It's difficult to have a successful relationship without spending at least one morning, afternoon or night a week alone together, free from distractions of family and work responsibilities. Experiment and find fun things to do together. Have a picnic in the park or on the beach, go kayaking or bushwalking, get massages together or better still, give each other a massage! Your dates don't need to be expensive but your intention needs to be to connect and focus on each other. So, if you love going to the movies, seeing live bands or going to the theatre, have dinner beforehand or coffee and dessert afterwards. A true date means you're spending time looking at one another, not at something else.
  • Plan romantic or fun and adventurous activities: As well as having a regular weekly date, plan for a few longer get away times each year of at least three days and two nights that you can spend enjoying quality time together. Use this time as a retreat from your daily responsibilities for family, home and work. If you're a romantic and your budget allows for it, go to a beautiful exotic island like Fiji or Hawaii and sit by the water sipping cocktails. Go lower budget and go camping and 4-wheel driving or rent a beach house or a bed and breakfast in the mountains and spend time just focusing on each other's needs.

For more free tips and resources and to find out about one-to-one business, executive or life coaching, group coaching, Emotional Freedom Technique (E.F.T.) workshop dates or to arrange an individual E.F.T. session, visit the Blue Sky Coaching website at Tania can be contacted Monday to Friday between 8 am and 8 pm (Adelaide CST), on (08) 8338 3134 or 0411 471 941 or by e-mail on

  Group Telecoaching: Last Chance To Join Me

In just a few days I'll be starting my once-a-year only 


a 'fun and inspiring' 6-session, group telecoaching series, held over 3 months on Wednesday evenings, from 8 pm to 9 pm (Adelaide CST), starting 8 March 2006.

This series has been specifically designed as a low-cost alternative to one-to-one coaching to provide you with powerful tools, techniques and my support as well as the support of your very own mastermind team to help you easily and enjoyably achieve your deepest desires, goals and dreams.

The series will start with expressing your deepest desires as inspiring goals, so you are drawn to achieving them.

We'll then create success strategies for achieving each of your goals.

In our remaining sessions you'll learn some fascinating and powerful tools and techniques that you will use, like accessing the power of your *subconscious mind* to accelerate your success, how to move past your comfort zones and *overcome obstacles* to ensure that nothing blocks your path to success and how to tap into your *intuition* and surrender control so you can achieve your goals and dreams easily and almost effortlessly .

We'll complete our coaching series with a virtual group *celebration* to acknowledge our achievements.

Each session will include a 10-minute coaching segment, where you'll be able to have coaching from me as well as share in coaching of your fellow group members.

Each member of the group will also have the opportunity, if they like, to present our session topic. 

Your resolve will deepen and you'll have the support of your own *mastermind team* as well as myself - an experienced, professional coach.

Here's a testimonial from Taryn, a participant last year:

'After undertaking some serious de-cluttering in my laundry, which included removing some excessive shelving that encouraged clutter, there was a job advertised in the newspaper. 

I applied for the position and I got it! The job happened to be exactly what I was looking for at the time.

Maybe it was a coincidence, but every time I do a major de-clutter now I notice a new opportunity arises.' 

So, no matter where you may be in the world - from Australia to the UK, Asia to New Zealand, I'd love you to join me to start achieving your goals and dreams easily - almost magically.

There are currently six participants registered, with room for two more, so if you are interested in joining this group, please sign up now to secure your place by clicking hereRegistrations close on Wednesday 1 March.

Cost: Only $198.00! which may be paid in two equal instalments of $99, with your first payment required by Wednesday 1 March. 

And, because I want to provide you with everything you could possibly need to succeed I'm also including two wonderful bonuses if you join me:

Special Bonus 1: You'll receive a 30-minute one-to-one coaching session with me to help you either clarify your goals or your strategies for achieving your goals. 

Special Bonus 2: You'll receive a beautiful A5-size notebook from Intrinsic's Believe range containing the quote 'Believe in yourself and in the magic of your dreams, have the courage to follow your heart and shine your magnificent light on the world' by Adele Basheer on the front cover so you'll have an inspiring place to record your goals, strategies, insights, opportunities and successes over the course of our coaching series.

You'll also receive an A$20 international calling card to cover the cost of our six calls. 

So, be quick and sign up by no later than Wednesday 1 March by clicking here.

Reader, I'd love you to join me so I can help you achieve your treasured goals and life's dreams!

  Summer Special Competition: Drawn Tomorrow

Will you win my summer special competition? Visit my website tomorrow to find out.

You have just under 24 hours to enter. Drawn 28 February 2006!

Simply click on the competition image to enter for your chance to WIN an autographed copy of 'Work a little less, live a little more- by Mark McKeon PLUS two 90-minute business, executive or life coaching sessions with me.

  Energy Tapping: Appear on My New DVD!

Reader, are you ready to create more abundance in your life? 

Then come and learn how to with E.F.T.!

I'll be holding three more workshops this year before 30 June, so if you would like to attend any one of these, please register now using the energy tapping button. When you do, you'll be eligible for the 'early bird' discount, which is $10 off the regular price.

And, if you'd like to appear on an educational DVD that I'll be producing during my next workshop session on 11 March, please register as soon as possible as there are just 3 spots availableA special price of $55.00 will apply to this workshop only, in exchange for each participant agreeing to be videoed. You will also receive a *free* copy of the DVD valued at $29.95 as soon as it is available.

Energy Tapping is a powerful technique, which you can use virtually anywhere, anytime, to help you quickly: release stress; overcome fears like public speaking, flying, heights; deal with self-sabotaging and limiting beliefs and behaviours like 'I could never do that', 'It's not possible'; overcome procrastination; eliminate panic attacks; deal with your addictions and cravings - smoking, food, gambling; as well as relieve physical pain, such as backache and migraine headaches.

My next three workshops will be held on Saturday mornings, from 9.30 am to 12.30 pm on:

  • Saturday 11 March 2006 (be immortalised on video!) 
  • Saturday 8 April 2006
  • Saturday 13 May 2006. 

As I plan to be on maternity leave from 1 July, the workshop will then be available on DVD for purchase from my website together with a comprehensive workbook.

To register on-line, simply click on the Energy Tapping button. 

COST: $85.00 * pp (includes morning tea and workbook). 

* EARLY BIRD DISCOUNT: A $10.00 discount applies to payments received 10 days prior to the workshop date,


Please call me to arrange a personal, one-to-one 45-minute E.F.T. session, which we can do in person if you are in Adelaide, or by telephone wherever you might be in Australia or the world, between 8 am and 8 pm, Adelaide CST, Mondays to Fridays


I'm also available for in-house workshops for your team or your next conference.

Please call me on 0411 471 941 or (08) 8338 3134 to discuss your requirements.

  Next Month: 10 Ways to Get Organised

Do you often find yourself feeling overwhelmed, confused and wasting time looking for things because you have no idea where they might be?

Then it's time to get organised and enjoy the benefits of more energy, more balance and more time!

Tune in next month for my top 10 tips on getting organised, so you can get on top of things instead of having things get on top of you.

  Executive Coaching: Special Offer Until 30 June

Have you considered executive coaching to help you achieve what you really want from your career and life?

Executive coaching is a collaborative, individualised relationship between the executive and their coach, with the aim of coaching being, to help you find your own solutions, expand your capacity and resources to take effective action, create lasting new habits in areas that need them and so reshape your work and personal life.

It works largely on the principle that everything changes when you change. 

As I'm planning to be on maternity leave from 1 July and will only be available for one-to-one coaching this year until 30 June, I'm currently offering $100 off my monthly executive coaching fees (each month) for any executive coaching program commenced and completed between 1 March and 31 May.  

Tania has an amazing ability to meet people where they are at and take them where they really want to go. Her blend of humour and enthusiasm, support and stretch will guide you on an incredible journey of learning, self-discovery and empowerment.

I have coached with Tania on several occasions and each time I go back - to a coach that will challenge me whilst completely understanding and supporting me with an atmosphere of safety, warmth and incredible insight.

Tania will make you believe in yourself, in your dreams and take you further than you thought possible.

- Justine, HR Executive

Executive coaching may be initiated by you and in most cases is financially supported by employers.

Our coaching will usually be focused on one or a combination of the following areas:

  • Coaching for skills, which may be, for example, presentation, communication, selling, delegation or negotiation skills.
  • Coaching for performance, which focuses on your effectiveness in your present role, ability to take control of your days and environment, to work under pressure without feeling exhausted by the end of each day so you can go home to enjoy your personal life, to stay focused, develop and mentor staff, improve productivity and increase your levels of career and personal satisfaction and passion.
  • Coaching for change or development, which focuses on your future or ongoing career success, for example, becoming a first time Senior Manager, Director, Partner, Board Member, CEO, MD, GM.
  • Coaching for your agenda, by focusing on your larger work, such as being an effective leader, shaping your organisation's culture, creating and successfully communicating shared goals.

What are the Benefits?

Executive coaching:

  • challenges you to find your own answers and tap into all of your resources
  • encourages accountability to your goals
  • provides an ongoing relationship that fosters confidence, trust and deep conversation
  • honours and celebrates your achievements

As your coach, in addition to our scheduled sessions, I'll also be available to you on an as-needed basis and can be called upon at critical times. Our sessions are flexible and able to address a wide range of issues in response to your particular needs, as my coaching approach is totally individualised to you.

If you're interested in executive coaching for yourself or an executive on your team, please give me a call on 0411 471 941 to discuss your requirements and arrange an obligation-free coaching session.

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2006 sees the Adelaide Branch of the Make-A-Wish Foundation celebrate 20 years of wish-granting. That is 20 wonderful years of volunteers and sponsors working hard together to grant the most cherished wish of a child with a life-threatening illness. We invite you to join us as we raise money to help grant wishes for another 20 years for a Fashion Parade 

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featuring Matthew Primus, with Nicole Cornes (MC)

Tickets are $80 for gold front row seats, $65 for silver second row seats or $55 for general seats

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