Living the dream is published on the 27th of every month by Tania Basheer of Blue Sky Coaching.
by Tania Basheer, Publisher

10 Tips for Being a Great Leader

Vol 4, Issue 6
27 June 2008

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"A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are for."

- John A. Shedd

Next month's feature:

10 Things To Do When Business Goes Quiet

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Hi! from Tania

Hi there,

Kids can be so cute sometimes.

I woke up recently on a Sunday morning, not exactly feeling or looking my Sunday best. Jake pointed at the TV guide liftout on our coffee table (with a very glamourous photo of Denise Richards on the front cover) and declared 'Mummy!' What a compliment!

I made sure I got as much mileage out of that one as possible, by pointing at the cover and asking him again later who that was. I was really pleased he was still adamant it was 'mummy' each time. Bless him!

Warm wishes,


Tania Basheer - Publisher
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Feature: 10 Tips for Being a Great Leader

Feature: 10 Tips for Being a Great Leader

Great leaders bring out the best in others. They also improve the thinking of the people around them without telling anyone what to do.

Here are ten concepts, from David Rock's book, Quiet leadership - six steps to transforming performance at work, that, when put into practice, will help you be a great leader and improve your own as well as your team's performance. The first five summarise step one and the remaining five relate to steps two to six to transforming performance:    

  • Let them do all the thinking: One of the keys to transforming performance is allowing your people to find their own answers. Let them think through their own issues rather than telling them what you think the solution is and what you think they need to do.
  • Focus on solutions: Although problems can certainly be interesting to discuss, focusing on solutions is more useful. If you catch yourself focusing on a problem or the drama in a situation, or even getting bogged down in detail, re-focus your attention on identifying and planning the way ahead.
  • Remember to stretch: Quiet leaders are comfortable making people feel uncomfortable. They know that stretching people so they feel positively challenged brings growth, and in growth there is aliveness, engagement and passion. All of these are necessary for achieving great performance.     
  • Accentuate the positive: Continually provide positive feedback in many forms over time to validate, confirm, encourage, support and believe in people's potential. As people start to see themselves in a new light, reality starts to change as well.  
  • Put process before content: Be highly disciplined in all of your conversations and diligent in ensuring every conversation is as productive as possible every step of the way. Get the process of any conversation right before getting into any of the content. Having good process includes establishing clear expectations so you know at every moment exactly what you're talking about and why, and where you're trying to get to.  
  • Listen for potential: If you're not measuring and monitoring how people are growing, you can easily fall into the trap of focusing on their problems. Listen for where people are heading rather than for what might not be working and see people as their potential. The first step in seeing positive change in others is to expect. 
  • Speak with intent: Be succinct, specific and generous. Being succinct requires you to decide on the essence of what you want to say and say it in as few words as possible. In doing so, you'll keep people's attention and interest. This also allows people to create their own mental models that correlate to the ideas you're trying to share. Being specific means paying close attention to what others say so you can be accurate and detailed in our responses. Being succinct and specific together means including everything that's relevant in a dialogue, and nothing irrelevant. Being generous is a subtle thing - it's about being committed to the other person understanding your message. It means putting yourself in their shoes when you're speaking and taking care to use words they will connect with. Being generous is also a way of showing you care about the other person and it helps build trust.  This invites the other person to take the conversation to a deeper level and, in so doing, opens up the possibility of learning and change.  
  • Dance toward insight: This step involves asking people the type of questions that will help them think more clearly and identify their own 'aha' moments or insights. To get this dance right, you need to first ask permission before getting personal or taking a conversation to a deeper level, then make sure you're on the same page, then ask your question. As you facilitate this dance, you'll see people's faces changing as they move from the awareness of a dilemma, to reflecting, to having an illumination and then being ready to take action.
  • Create new thinking: Quiet leaders do this by starting conversations with identifying the current reality of a person's thinking, widely exploring alternatives for action with them and then tapping into their energy and motivations.  
  • Follow up: To help people recognise and further embed any habits they're developing or to ensure their new thinking becomes a reality, it's very important to follow up with them. By doing this in a positive and supportive way, we give people the encouragement they need to turn the delicate new circuits they've created in their brains into full-blown hard wiring. 

If you'd like some assistance in working through these steps and in successfully building a coaching culture in your business or organisation, please call me on (08) 8338 3134 or 0411 471 941 or email me at I'd love to help you do that!

For more business, executive or life coaching tips and strategies to help you achieve your goals and create and live the life you've always wanted, visit: To find out more about how you can work with me personally, visit:, or call me on (08) 8338 3134 or e-mail me on

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If you're in business, it's essential to have good strategic plans. And, I don't mean just in your head! I mean written down, working action plans. 

If you'd like me to help you document a one-page strategic plan for your business, call me on 0411 471 941 or on (08) 8338 3134 and let's arrange a time. We can do this together in a 3-hour one-to-one workshop.

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End of Financial Year Competition - Hurry! Drawn 30 June

End of Financial Year Competition - Hurry! Drawn 30 June

Enter for your chance to WIN 2 executive coaching sessions with me plus a copy of Quiet Leadership by David Rock valued at over $750!

Quiet Leadership offers a practical, six-step guide to making permanent workplace performance change by unleashing higher productivity, new levels of morale and greater job satisfaction. Supported by the latest groundbreaking research, Quiet Leadership provides, for the first time, a brain-based approach that will help busy leaders, executives and managers improve their own and their colleagues' performance.

Winner of Autumn Competition: P. Watts

Next Month: 10 Things To Do When Business Goes Quiet

A few months ago, I had a really quiet work month. A lot was going on in Adelaide (I'm being serious now), including the Adelaide Cup, the Fringe, Womadelaide, a heatwave and, of course, Easter, so I wasn't surprised to not be taking on any new clients.

However, I was really sad and surprised to discover just a few weeks ago, that one of my favourite boutique stationery shops in Adelaide was closing down.

So next month, I thought it might be useful to look at 10 things we can do when business goes quiet, before it's too late!

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