Living the dream is published on the 27th of every month by Tania Basheer of Blue Sky Coaching.
by Tania Basheer, Publisher

10 Tips for Meeting a Great Partner

Vol 6, Issue 1
27 January 2010

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- From the movie, When Harry Met Sally (1989)

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10 Negotiation Tips to Help You Get What You Want

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Hi! from Tania

Hi there,

Happy New Year. I hope 2010 will be one of your best years yet!

Rick and I had a wonderful time at The Louise in the Barossa Valley last month - the food and service were excellent and the accommodation superb - even Holly slept through the night! We also took Jake to see the Pandas and they were beautiful.

Unfortunately, our family getaway to Victor Harbor was a different story and went totally pear-shaped. First, the day before we were due to go, I received a call from the apartment owner to warn me that the people living in the apartment next door to the one we'd booked had been arrested for violent behaviour and drug offences, so he suggested we cancel our stay.

Undeterred from spending a few days by the sea, I immediately started looking for somewhere else we could stay and booked a townhouse at The Marina on Hindmarsh Island for three nights. Unfortunately, the day after we arrived, I found out my mum had been rushed to hospital overnight and needed three blood transfusions (she's OK now), so we came home the next day. The drive took us twice as long as it should have, with pit stops for Jake who was carsick (poor darling) and Holly, needing to be fed. What a disaster! We were all totally exhausted when we got back. 

At least Jake got to ride on the Cockle Train (and loved it!), we enjoyed a great meal with friends and Jake and Holly had fun sharing a bath.

Warm wishes,


Tania Basheer - Publisher
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Feature: 10 Tips for Meeting a Great Partner

Feature: 10 Tips for Meeting a Great Partner

Would you like to meet a partner who's just right for you? Are you finding it's like looking for a needle in a haystack and that dating is stressful?

Try out one or more of these low-stress tips and I truly hope you meet someone wonderful!   

  • Know who you really want: Spend some time writing down what it is that really matters to you in a partner. Tall, dark and handsome might be nice, but what if you overlook a potential great partner just because they don't come in that packaging? Think about the things that you really don't want too. You might find someone who's physically attractive, but who's cheated on all their past partners; is lazy, insensitive; or maybe they hate socialising and you love going out. The clearer the picture you can paint of what you'd really like in a partner, the easier it will be to spot a potential partner, especially one who might not catch your eye initially.
  • Get creative: If you're open to the powers of visualisation and/or Feng Shui, create a vision board, representing your relationship goals and the kind of person you'd ideally like to meet. Check out Marie Diamond's website  if you'd like to know your personal law of attraction number and get some guidance on where specifically on your vision board to write your goals and place pictures. Then, display your vision board in your bedroom, living room or even office (your law of attraction number will also determine where exactly is best for you). Even if you're not entirely convinced about using Feng Shui, a vision board is a nice way to display your goals and dreams visually. If you're in Sydney, and want to learn more about vision boards , get in touch with my friend, coach Barbara Anderson on (02) 9527 9396. She'll be running a vision board half-day workshop on Saturday afternoon, 30 January. Cost is only $A25.00 and you'll create your very own vision board on the day.
  • More Feng Shui: If you're into Feng Shui (or willing to try it), keep your bedroom clutter-free and remove anything that's in your bedroom that doesn't need to be there. For example, one of my clients, who wanted to be in a romantic relationship, told me recently that, a week after moving her bookcase out of her bedroom, she became involved with her current partner. Also, make sure you have pairs of things in your bedroom - candles, bedside tables, lamps.     
  • Get strategic: If you find a great partner isn't showing up in your daily life, it might be time to get strategic, shake things up and make some changes - to your work, social life, where you're living, interests you pursue, etc. to increase your chances of meeting new people and the kind of partner you're looking for. 
  • Get set up: Don't go it alone. Let friends you trust know what you're looking for in a relationship and ask them to keep their eyes out for you! Most of us know at least 100 people, so tap into your friends' networks as well as your own. 
  • Do a little flirting: Don't be afraid to smile at and make eye contact with someone you'd like to meet. Trust your instincts and, if it feels right to you and you have an opportunity to ask out someone you find interesting, do it! Ask them to a movie, but make sure you meet before or afterwards for coffee at least, so you have a chance to talk. Or, if you know they play golf or tennis, for example, ask them if they'd be interested in playing some time, or, if you both enjoy a sport, like football, suggest going to a game together. 
  • Be adventurous: Travel can be a wonderful opportunity to see the world, meet new people (with similar interests to you) and find a partner too. In my 20s I went on a European tour alone, and was surprised at how many other people were travelling on their own too. Four of the people on my tour happened to be from Baulkham Hills (a suburb in Sydney) and, interestingly, two of them became a couple by the end of the tour and went on to get married just a few years later! Of course, they had never seen each other before the tour, even though they'd lived in the same suburb for at least 15 years.
  • Dismantle any negative beliefs your hold about relationships or yourself:  According to Arielle Ford, author of  The Soulmate Kit , (who married her soul mate at 44), ''After a few (or many) bad relationships, it's so easy to shut down, give up, and stop believing that the right person is out there for us. Our hearts yearn for love, but our minds insist it's not possible. When our beliefs contradict our desires, we experience inner conflict that not only paralyzes us, but can actually prevent us from recognising the possibilities for love that exist all around us. We attract experiences that are consistent with our beliefs. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is a critical first step for manifesting him or her into your life. When deep down in the core of your being you believe that your soul mate exits, there is no limit to the ways he or she can enter your life."   
  • Crystal therapy: Rose quartz crystal is said to help bring your true love to you. Ladies, try wearing rose quartz as a pendant (close to your heart is said to be best), and guys, you can carry one discreetly in a jacket pocket.
  • Give it time: Although sparks might not fly immediately, once you've had a chance to really get to know someone, you might find they're just right for you!

For more business, executive and life coaching tips to help you achieve your goals and create and live the life you've always wanted, visit: To find out more about how you can work with me personally, visit:, or call me on 0411 471 941 or (08) 8338 3134 or e-mail me on

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The more you know about your partner's inner world the better your chances of avoiding frustration, arguments and heartache. Even if you feel you have picked the 'wrong' partner, understanding your partner's (and your own) personality style and why you do the things you do, can be the difference between just tolerating each other and loving each other, warts and all.

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Next Month: 10 Negotiation Tips to Help You Get What You Want

Next month, I'm attending Reinvent Yourself - a new year, a new you - a professional development day in Adelaide on 10 February. I'll be going with my girlfriend Sharon Ferrier of Persuasive Presentations, who'll be speaking at the event about capitalising your networks for career advancement.

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Jen Dalitz, of will be revealing '10 dos and donts to negotiating what you want', so I look forward to sharing her tips with you in my next issue.

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