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Living the dream is published on the 27th of every month by Tania Basheer of Blue Sky Coaching.
by Tania Basheer, Publisher

10 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationships

Vol 7, Issue 1
27 January 2011

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Quote of the month

'The most profound relationship we'll ever have is the one with ourselves.' 

- Shirley Maclaine

Next month's feature:

10 Tips for Successful Strategic Alliances

In this issue:


Welcome to Living the dream, Blue Sky Coaching's monthly e-zine, written for small business owners, young entrepreneurs and service industry professionals and filled with cutting edge success tips to help you skyrocket your income, enjoy more personal time and be known as a star in your field. 

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Hi! from Tania

Hi there,I hope you've enjoyed some time out these holidays and that Santa put something nice in your Christmas stocking for you! I treated myself to a Thermomix and, being a big 'foodie', I love it and use it every day. If you'd like to see one in action, let me know. I'm having a Thermomix party this Saturday morning which is at 'standing room only', but I'm planning to hold another one in autumn or winter.  

I've was hoping the New Year would be a good time to fast-forward my goal of losing 10 kilos before my next birthday. I've lost almost 4 since November, which I'm happy pretty about, but between Jake and Holly, we've had 3 birthday parties to go to this month, and it's bad luck to not eat a person's birthday cake, isn't it? Or is that wedding cake? Either way, I can't resist birthday cakes, especially those shaped like cars and monkeys.

This month we're continuing to work on relationships and strengthening the ones we have. For those of us living in Australia, it's been extremely sobering and heartening to see how people are reaching out and supporting one another during the recent floods crises.  

Warm wishes,


Tania Basheer - Publisher
Living the dream e-zine

Feature: 10 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationships

Feature: 10 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationships

One of my favourite authors on the subject of intimate relationships is Stephanie Dowrick and this month I'd like to share 10 of her wise ideas for strengthening relationships.

Although they come from her book The Almost Perfect Marriage, I think most of them will work well for any kind of relationship:

  1. Treat others well: Self-respect and feeling good about yourself live or die on how you treat other people - especially those closest to you. The better you treat other people, the better you'll feel about yourself, and the less obsessed about yourself you are, the easier it will be to behave thoughtfully with others.
  2. Have fun!: Having fun together is essential - make it a priority.
  3. Be good-humoured: Good humour may well be the most valuable currency in your relationship. This means, for example: being reliable in your moods, interpreting events positively, tolerating differences in opinion, keeping an eye on the big picture - 'I love this person', accepting with grace when things don't go your way and taking pleasure in your relationship and one another. 
  4. Stop beating yourself up: Silence those complaints about yourself. The way you treat yourself will affect all your relationships, especially the most intimate. Accept who you are. Open your eyes to the strengths you can develop and share.
  5. Don't 'dump' negativity on loved ones: It's extremely tempting to 'dump' your negativity on someone else - especially your loved ones. Dumping doesn't relieve your tension, nor can it possibly support your relationship. Own your feelings and do something about them. Notice how your moods colour your interpretations. Trust that when other people seem especially annoying, you yourself are out of sorts.
  6. Keep your partner at the centre of your life: Children, family, friends, colleagues and pets all matter, but keep your partner at the centre of your life. Let the love you create together benefit all those other relationships. Talk to and about one another positively.
  7. Feel secure within yourself: 'I can't live without you', isn't a compliment. No-one should be required to bring meaning to an empty life. The more secure you feel inwardly, the more secure your relationship can also be. Inner security is something you must give yourself. It will absolutely transform what you can then give to other people and receive from them.
  8. Work things out together: 'Having problems' is not a problem. Having problems only becomes a problem when you don't know how to talk, listen and work things out.
  9. Use your strengths: Regard the strengths that each of you have as shared assets within your relationship. Brainstorm what they are. You might be surprised by what your partner sees in you that you don't. Write those strengths down. Acknowledge and validate them. In tough or complex moments, remember those strengths and call on them.
  10. Practise and share your values: Shared values strengthen a relationship. They give you ground to stand on, especially when you can bring them to life. Talk about why your values matter and what they mean to you. Lean on your values for inspiration and support, such as courage, kindness, loyalty, laughter, trust and forgiveness.   

Related tips: 10 tips for better communication10 tips for talking and listening to each other10 relationship skills for the almost perfect marriage  and 10 tips for successful conflict resolution.

For more business and life coaching tips to help you achieve your goals and create and live the life you've always wanted, visit: www.blueskycoaching.com.au/ezine/index.php. To find out more about how you can work with me personally, visit: www.blueskycoaching.com.au, or call me on 0411 471 941 or (08) 8338 3134 or e-mail me on tania@blueskycoaching.com.au.

Working Towards the 4-Hour Work Week

Just a note to let you know that from 31 January my business hours will be changing from 9.30 am - 5.30 pm on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays to 9.30 am - 2.30 pm on Mondays and 9.30 am - 5.30 pm Thursdays and Fridays.

I'm not quite at the stage of the The 4-Hour Work Week , but I feel like I'm definitely heading in the right direction!

Next EFT Circle and DVD Package Special Offer

The Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Special Interest Group (SIG) will be resuming monthly EFT Circles on Tuesday 15 February 2011, in the boardroom of the Fullarton Park Community Centre, 411 Fullarton Rd, Fullarton SA. Cost: $10. Let me know by reply e-mail if you'd like to come!

Given the recent flood disasters in Australia, this month's discussion topic will be 'EFT for post-traumatic stress, anxiety and depression.' EFT is a proven, effective technique to support any of these conditions.  

Our EFT Circles are for coaches, therapists and and anyone else in the community interested in exploring EFT applications, such as how EFT can be used to relieve pain, facilitate weight loss, overcome addictions and boost confidence and self-esteem.

To learn this simple, proven technique, take a look at the many options I have available at: www.blueskycoaching.com.au/energytapping.php

If you have family or friends affected by the recent flood disasters in Queensland, NSW or Victoria, please feel free to contact me and I'll give your family member or friend either one of my EFT DVD packages or a 1:1 EFT session with me to help them through this difficult time. 

I'm available for 1:1 EFT consultations and in-house workshops on Mondays, Thursdays and Fridays.

Direct Line: (08) 8338 3134

Mobile: 0411 471 941

Email: tania@blueskycoaching.com.au

Summer Coaching Competition

Summer Coaching Competition

Enter now atblueskycoaching.com.au/special.php for your chance to WIN two business, executive or life coaching sessions with me and a copy of Stephanie Dowrick's Intimacy & Solitude Self-Therapy Book, valued at over $300!

Winner drawn 28 February 2011.

There are times in all our lives when help from others is essential. But there are also times when it is uniquely beneficial to use and develop our own inner resources. Extending the richly rewarding approach of her international bestseller, Intimacy & Solitude, Stephanie Dowrick draws us into a particularly accessible and enjoyable way to enhance self-knowledge and skillfully increase our appreciation of others.

Whether you have an hour to spare each week, or just a rare twenty minutes, whether you are troubled most about how to be alone, or how to be with others, this invaluable book will immediately uplift your emotional and spiritual life.

Christmas Competition Winner: J Fazzalari

Next Month: 10 Tips for Successful Strategic Alliances

Do you have strategic alliance partners helping your business grow and succeed? For example, if you operate a specialty cake shop, you might form strategic alliances with hairdressers, party planners or florists.

Next month we'll look at how to successfully form strategic alliances and work with your alliance partners so that, together, you can grow your businesses faster than you might on your own.

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