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Living the dream is published on the 27th of every month by Tania Basheer of Blue Sky Coaching.
by Tania Basheer, Publisher

10 Thoughts to Build Connection with Your Partner

Vol 8, Issue 10
27 October 2012

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Quote of the month

'Life is not a stress rehersal.'

-  Loretta Laroche

Next month's feature:

10 Ways to Get Inspired

In this issue:


Welcome to Living the dream, Blue Sky Coaching's monthly e-zine, written for small business owners, young entrepreneurs and service industry professionals and filled with cutting edge success tips to help you skyrocket your income, enjoy more personal time and be known as a star in your field. 

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Hi! from Tania

Hi there,

Just as the lovely weather has come in, everyone in our household picked up and passed on a gastro bug! Arghh! I picked it up early in the month, just as I was set to host a function for 24. Then poor Jake went down on the second day of rehearsals for his first ever play The Princess and the Pea, but in the true spirit of the theatre, recovered well to appear in the show. Unfortunately, by then, his sister Holly had picked up the bug and vomited AT the show - five times, on my lap. The show was being recorded, so sitting in the second row, we have this whole event available to replay anytime. I must say, the cameraman worked around our drama well. Then, just as Holly started to recover, Rick went down.

Who would have thought, but that The Princess and the Pea DVD has been a godsend. Holly's just come out of hospital after having her tonsils out and has watched it up to a dozen times a day. She loves all the singing and dancing and has picked up most of it now. Could we have two budding actors on our hands?

Warm wishes,


Tania Basheer - Publisher
Living the dream e-zine

Feature: 10 Thoughts to Build Connection with Your Partner

When we feel angry, stressed or distant from our partners we often focus on their negative characteristics.This leads to distress-maintaining thoughts, which in turn leaves us feeling more distant and isolated from our partners.

The following exercise from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver is designed to  get us back into the habit of thinking positively about our partners and rebuilding a sense of connection.

For maximum impact read the thought and then do the suggested task five days a week for the next two weeks and capture your work in a journal or notebook. 

  1. Thought 1: I am genuinely fond of my partner. Task: List one characteristic you find endearing or lovable about your partner.
  2. Thought 2: I am physically attracted to my partner. Task: Think of one physical attribute you like about your partner. 
  3. Thought 3: My partner has specific qualities that make me proud. Task: Write down one characteristic that makes you proud of your partner.
  4. Thought 4: We have the same general beliefs and values. Task: Describe one belief you share.
  5. Thought 5: We have common goals.Task: List one such goal.  
  6. Thought 6: My home is a place to come to get support and reduce stress. Task: List a time when your partner helped you reduce stress. 
  7. Thought 7: I can easily recall the time we first met. Task: Describe that first meeting on paper.
  8. Thought 8: We divide up household chores in a fair way. Task: Describe one way you do this on a regular basis.
  9. Thought 9: We are able to plan well and have a sense of control over our lives together. Task: Describe one thing you both planned together. 
  10. Thought 10: I think we can weather any storm together. Task: Reminisce about having made it  through a hard time.

As you work through this exercise you're likely to find your perspective on your partner and your relationship becoming far sunnier. What you're doing is rehearsing a more positive way to think about your partner and your relationship. Like any rehearsal, if you do it often enough, the words (and, more importantly, the thoughts) will become second nature.  

Read more tips: 10 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationships; 10 Relationship Skills for the Almost Perfect Marriage; 10 Tips for Finding Your Soul Mate; 10 Tips for Meeting a Great Partner; 10 Ways to Enjoy Your Relationships; 10 Tips for Talking and Listening to Each Other; 10 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship; 10 Ways to Have a Hot Relationship; 10 Tips for Successful Conflict Resolution10 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People.

For more business and life coaching tips to help you achieve your goals and create and live the life you've always wanted, visit: www.blueskycoaching.com.au/ezine/index.php. To find out more about how you can work with me personally, visit: www.blueskycoaching.com.au, or call me on 0411 471 941 or (08) 8338 3134 or e-mail me on  tania@blueskycoaching.com.au.


You Are Not Your Brain: Virtual Masterclass Series

I'll be participating in this masterclass - would you like to join me?

Develop new techniques for taking control of your brain, changing bad habits and ending unhealthy thinking in this 5-week masterclass with two world-leading authorities in coaching and neuroscience.

Do you ever feel as if you:

  • overthink problems or worry about things that are out of your control?
  • place unrealistically high expectations on yourself?
  • get stuck or panicked because of fear and worries?
  • blame and beat up on yourself?
  • engage in unhealthy behaviours to escape life's daily stresses?
  • act against your overall best interest?

You most likely answered 'yes' to one or more of these. We all do periodically. One thing is clear: when we do experience these things, we don't like it and we wish we could change it.

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In this program you'll explore each of the four steps in depth:

1. Relabel: Learn how to identify deceptive brain messages (unhealthy thoughts) as they happen.

2. Reframe: Learn how to change your perception on the importance of these thoughts (it's not ME, it's my BRAIN!).

3. Refocus: Learn techniques for shifting your attention to something that is positive, healthy and beneficial to you.

4. Revalue: Learn the importance of truly understanding and believing that deceptive brain messages are not real, and have little or no value to you in your life.

These four steps were developed by Dr Schwartz initially in his work with OCD patients and have since been adopted by millions of health practitioners in their work and people in their lives through Dr Schwartz's best selling books You Are Not Your Brain and Brain Lock.

This is a unique opportunity to spend a month learning from and having exclusive access to two of the world's leading authorities in neuroscience and coaching. Connect with like-minded people in your class and learn from one another to enhance the impact the program has on your everyday life! Bring the theory of the book to life and learn practical, new techniques for maximising your productivity and performance every day. 

Starts Tuesday 13 November at:

9.30 am Western Australia, Singapore and Hong Kong 

11.30 am Queensland

12.00 pm South Australia

12.30 pm NSW, ACT and Victoria

2.30 pm New Zealand

This masterclass will sell out. Register to secure your place now.

Daily Inspiration to Be All You Can Be

Congratulations to my wonderful, inspiring client, Rosalind  Sansbury, who's celebrating the release of her first book Nurturing wisdom: daily inspiration to be all you can be!

You're invited to join us at her book launch:

When: Sunday 4 November

Where: Over 50's Club, Brighton Road, Hove 

Time: 3 pm - 4 pm

Copies of Rosalind's beautiful book will be available for purchase on the day at the BOOK LAUNCH SPECIAL PRICE of $30 (RRP $33.99).

On the day, Rosalind will be offering the opportunity for any books purchased to receive a personal signed message.

Also available on the day will be a special package consisting of  Rosalind's book Nurturing Wisdom and her Simple Beginnings meditation CD for $50 (RRP of the CD is usually $24.95) - a saving of $8.95.

Rosalind's Nurturing Wisom book and Simple Beginnings meditation CD are ideal as a beautiful, inspiring and nurturing gift for your friends, family and you!

Rosalind has been my inspiration for next month's e-zine article, 10 Ways to Get Inspired. 

Please call Rosalind on 0423 458 008 by Monday 29 October to RSVP to her book launch invitation if you'd like to attend.

I hope to see you there!

Find out more about Rosalind's work at:




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Enter now for your chance to WIN two business or life coaching sessions with me, plus a copy of Shift happens! How to live an inspired life starting right now! by Robert Holden, PhD.

Prize valued at over $400! 

In his book Shift happens! Robert Holden, PhD, shares a powerful mix of principles and exercises - from his private coaching practice - that can create real breakthroughs in your life.

Written in a short essay style, Robert shows you how to tap into the inner gold of your true nature, unblock yourself, release fears, drop the struggle, transform relationships and live a happier life.

Winter Competition Winner: D. Woolley

Next Month: 10 Ways to Get Inspired

When was the last time you felt truly inspired and what did you do about it? Hatch a business idea, grow your business, create a blog, or maybe you helped someone in need? 

Next month we'll look at 10 ways to get inspired and live with more peace, passion and joy.

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10 am - 5 pm

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Adelaide 8 November 2012


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Hear what can be done to improve employee retention and save time and money at Stop Your Talent Being Poached in Adelaide on 8 November, in a practical workshop facilitated by Bridget Hogg, with three guest speakers from Not for Profits. It will be a catalyst to developing a strategic attraction and retention plan.

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You might wish to pass this on to any HR Manager or Volunteer Co-ordinator whom you know in a Not for Profit organisation.

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